Intro
This is a guide that will hopefully make communication quicker by presenting you my interests and limits in an organized fashion. It may give you ideas or help us avoid triggering or complicated topics. This is specifically for scenes where I am the top/Domme. If you were interested in me as your bottom/submissive then check out this one.
Safety
Safe Words
I use the classic stoplight system.
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Everything is okay. Not used often, but may be used if I ask how you're doing and you're partly non-verbal. |
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Stop and check in. It doesn't mean we have to stop playing, but we may need to ramp down intensity or change activities. |
| 🔴 |
Stop immediately. I will check in on what is wrong and your safety. |
You may also use my name instead of yellow/red as a way of getting my attention. If we’re performing a scene where you won’t be able to speak we will need to negotiate non-verbal safe words.
Body
I keep most play limited to buttocks, thighs and breasts. Less impactful play, like sensory or electrical, can include areas that are safe for that type of play. Please let me know if there are any areas that I should avoid for any reason, whether traumatic, physical, or circumstantial.
Aftercare
Please let me know if there’s any particular aftercare that you require, so we can try and be prepared. I am usually available to cuddle, and may also have markers for you to color (either my tattoos or a coloring book.)
Interests
Key
Here is a key for what each list means:
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Activities I enjoy and am almost always up for |
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Activities that I enjoy, but require advanced notice or more negotiation |
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Activities I do not enjoy, and will not consent to |
Bondage
The chain parts of whips and chains
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Restraints and tie downs |
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Gags |
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Rope (lack of training) |
Electrical
Danger, danger! High voltage!
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Violet wand |
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Shock collars (neck or thigh) |
Degradation
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Sexual (slutty, whore, etc...) |
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Physical/appearance (fat, ugly, etc...) |
Honorifics
Titles and nicknames
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Being referred to as "Mommy" |
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Referring to you with sweet and/or diminutive titles ("girl," "boy," "puppy") |
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Honorifics not listed here ("Goddess," "Ma’am," "Mistress," etc) |
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Being referred to as "Daddy" or any other masculine honorifics |
Impact
Hit me baby one more time
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Bare-handed spanking and punching |
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Biting |
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Scratching |
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Hitting with implements (paddles, canes, floggers, etc) |
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Leaving visible marks |
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Slapping |
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Hitting with implements that require safety experience I don’t have (whips) |
Pet Play
You and me baby ain’t nothin’ but mammals
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Cages |
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Food bowls |
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Leashes |
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Kitten play |
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Puppy play |
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Squeaky toys |
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Tails (external) |
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Tails (insertable) |
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Other animal play |
Sex
With a recent STI test, of course
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Sexual teasing (verbal or physical) |
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Giving penetrative sex using my hands |
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Plugs and anal play |
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Receiving penetrative sex using fingers, genitals or toys |
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Giving or receiving oral sex |
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Giving penetrative sex using a strap-on |
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Power-bottoming |
| ⛔ |
Topping for penetrative sex using my genitals |
Sharps
You will feel a little pinch
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Clothespins |
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Clothespin zippers |
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Needles (lack of training) |